chore(Algebra/DirectSum): workaround for backward.inferInstanceAs

[Vierkantor]

This PR works around a backward.inferInstanceAs compatibility flag introduced by identifying DirectSum with DFinsupp in our definitions. We introduce a new dsimp lemma funLike_eq that transfers the FunLike instances, and now we can use DirectSum's FunLike instance, instead of the custom CoeFun instance. I unsqueezed a few simps, which all ran pretty much instant on my machine so it shouldn't cause much slowdown. Also we fix two porting notes.

This is not a great approach, but it seems the least painful for the short term. The alternative would be to strictly enforce the defeq barrier between DirectSum and DFinsupp, which would mean a substantial rewrite of this corner of Mathlib. We can't make DirectSum an @[implicit_reducible], because we need different multiplication on it than DFinsupp has.

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[github-actions]

PR summary 26fdeaa70a

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+ funLike_eq

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## from your `mathlib4` directory:
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## summary with just the declaration names:
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../mathlib-ci/scripts/pr_summary/declarations_diff.sh long <optional_commit>

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