chore(*): small fixes for backward.inferInstanceAs tech debt

[Vierkantor]

This PR contains a few more fixes/workaround for backward.inferInstanceAs issues. By explicitly constructing the instance we ensure the right defeqs hold. There also seems to be one place where we can remove the set_option without any downstream breakage.

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[github-actions]

PR summary 8885ca9642

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+ instance : AddCommMonoid (FormalMultilinearSeries 𝕜 E F)

You can run this locally as follows

## from your `mathlib4` directory:
git clone https://github.com/leanprover-community/mathlib-ci.git ../mathlib-ci

## summary with just the declaration names:
../mathlib-ci/scripts/pr_summary/declarations_diff.sh <optional_commit>

## more verbose report:
../mathlib-ci/scripts/pr_summary/declarations_diff.sh long <optional_commit>

The doc-module for scripts/pr_summary/declarations_diff.sh in the mathlib-ci repository contains some details about this script.

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No changes to strong technical debt.

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